Oct
07

Bus Stop Cookies

We are new to the Bus Stop scene.  Unfortunately the first week of school started off with some Bus Stop Drama.  People over reacted and feelings and people were hurt.  It was difficult as a neighborhood to go through and watch people I live near and care for struggle as they healed.

The good news – is an additional bus stop was added to our neighborhood.  And it is right. in. front. of. our. house!  How convenient.  I have really enjoyed getting to know my neighbors better.  I like standing around and chatting with the other Moms.  I like the kids.  The joy they all demonstrate each day.  Childhood bliss in my front yard each day.

I started a new tradition a few weeks ago.  Every Friday I bake cookies and share them with the kids, parents and the bus driver when they arrive at our stop.  It is clear that the kids, and parents, have come to enjoy them.  It is a simple thing.  And it brings so much joy to so many people.

Humble Tasks add up to a happy neighborhood!

Aug
26

Find-a-Friend Friday

Yours truly is interviewed, highlighted and exposed for all to enjoy today over at Diapers and Divinity!  Come see if you can find out something you didn’t already know about me or humble TASKS.  Leave dear Stephanie a comment and let her know how awesome I am she is!  Then come back here and tell me if you learned anything, or what surprised you the most, or how embarrassed you are to know me now!

Aug
24

Back to School Memories

(pictures are of Dixie in the grades the boys are in now.  Kinder, Fifth and Seventh)

I feel drowned everyday when the boys all came home from school.  Admittedly, I am out of practice of the back to school routines.  The paperwork, oh the blessed paperwork.  Why in this electronic age are we still doing so much paperwork?  Especially when I know I already filled out 98% of the information when I registered them?  And if I have three kids in the same district why can’t they link their files electronically so that I don’t have to fill it out THREE times?  Or at least the two that attend the same school.  I know it is only emphasized because I did just register them and I feel like it is the same 14 questions again and again.

But there is also the homework along with the excited thrills of recounting, retelling, rehashing the day.  And we have karate two afternoons a week, music lessons once a week, scouts once a week and chores to be done all before dinner so that I can encourage bathing and reasonable bedtimes.  I feel like the time I do have with them is spent rushing them, pushing them, encouraging them.  By 8 o’clock last night while trying to configure clip art around the poem Mega-Moose had typed for his homework I was beat and mentally fading.

With all the newness I have been thinking about my own back to school days.  What do you remember?  Glory and glee or apprehension and overwhelming memories?  Here are few that have come to me over the past few weeks.

  • Kindergarten, Mrs. Silver (she had silver hair too), our classroom was huge and fun.  I remember getting sat in the corner once (that’s all it took to correct this people pleaser), feeling special when “called on,” and my un-birthday when we had cupcakes.  Oh, and I remember on Valentines day we could find anywhere in the classroom to sit and read/open or Valentines and I picked the attached bathroom floor,  (EW!) and I remember Mrs. Silver asking why I had picked the bathroom and I said in that little-kid-why-doesn’t-this-make-sense-to-you tone: “because no one else was here.”
  • First grade, Mrs. Eggelsten, old lady but no silver hair.  (That baffled me.)  We couldn’t use the color yellow to color because she “couldn’t see it” (because she was so old, but we couldn’t call her old).  I didn’t think she liked me and I took it personally (people pleaser).  Looking back,  I am not sure she liked anyone.  For all you Utah people, she was the Matron to the family that owned Granny’s in Heber (she was Granny) and she lived in the house behind Granny’s.
  • Second Grade, Miss Anderson.  I adored her.  I adored her “Miss” and she was young compared to the other teachers that I had before, and she was just so wonderful.  Other than how much I adored her, I have few memories from second grade.  I remember the reading table, and I knew I was in the struggling reader group, which I hated.  (people pleaser).
  • Third Grade, Mrs. Cowley.  She always wore her hair in a bun that looked a little too tight.  Years ago if you had asked me who my least favorite teacher was, I would have said her.  As an adult, I look back and wonder if the harsh/stern pushing that I really didn’t like was all because she saw potential in me.  Honestly it  didn’t inspire me to do better, rather I took the route of “she is never going to be happy, why try” which only made things worse.  Years later I had a chance to talk to her as an adult and she shared memories, kind and delightful of me.  There was also a boy in this class that all the girls liked and I wanted him to like me, but being a third grade boy he was mean.  I cheated once at heads-up-seven-up in third grade too!  We also learned cursive in third grade.
  • Fourth Grade, Mr. Durtschi.  I just had to look up his name because I could say it, but had no idea how to spell it.  He was cool because he was the first male teacher I had.  He had male patterned baldness.  It was in fourth grade that I realized I didn’t “have to” do my Math homework every night.  (I also didn’t understand how grades worked, duh.)  Times tables were passed off in fourth grade, which seems so late compared to math now.  Even though I didn’t do my math homework every night, I knew Mr. Durtschi liked me, and I was willing to work harder for him.  (people pleaser)  I also learned about political cartoons in fourth grade.
  • Fifth Grade was interesting for me.  We started with a teacher, Mrs. Nelson (whom I adored, she was just happy, like she actually liked her job and all of her students!) early in the school year she  went and had a baby.  We ended up with a couple different subs, one that was there longer and then the other, Mrs. Nelson came back, but the sub, Mrs. Haven, stayed to “help.”  And then.  Gasp.  We moved.  The drama of a ten year old girl during a move!  My two teachers in my new hometown were both men.  Mr. Kinsley and Mr. Mortenson.  Friends, perhaps from the drama of moving, came to mean more and cause more trouble for me.  I met Amber (still talk to her on facebook) and had someone steal my homework and put their name on it.  Girls started to be meaner than the boys in fifth grade.  We also jumped rope so much at recess that the school had us put on a show to Bruce Springsteen’s Born in the USA for the whole school!

“Back in the day” memories!  Can you imagine?

  • My school in Heber was on “the other side” of Highway 40.  Which meant we had to cross the highway to get to school.  There was a crossing guard, but if you were late, you were on your own!  Can you imagine?  There was no stop light and it was five lanes.  How did we ever survive?
  • When you misbehaved in the halls or during recess you got your nose put to the wall.  This never happened to me!  Can you imagine that in school today?

What are your memories from grade school?

Aug
21

Different Track

I am not an organized person.  I would never use the word organized to describe myself.  Ever.  And yet, often people do use it to describe me.  ((What?)) Here is the thing, my house is cluttered.  It’s true, and I am honest to myself about it.  So “stuff” is not organized in my life.  However, I do an excellent job, if I do say so myself, in organizing our family’s time and (sniff-sniff) I always did a great job at organizing school.  Homeschool that is.

Now, we are switching tracks and I am now at someone else’s direction for my children’s education as well as the “stuff” that come with that.    I have a fear, magnified by my lack of organizing-stuff-skills, of all the paper and stuff that I anticipate coming home from school. I have a plan to try and combat it. (Some may even joke I homeschooled the kids so I wouldn’t have to put up with all the paper they send home!)

Here is the main idea to help combat the paper this year.  Our Back To School basket:

Now let me explain.  I read (back in the infertility days when I knew everything about raising kids because I didn’t have any) about a Mom that had assigned each of her kids a color.  You then use that color for everything, okay almost everything, for that child.  Toothbrushes, towels, backpacks and water bottles are some of my personal examples.  I started this “color coded program” as soon as my first child was born.  We have a blue, red, yellow and green child.  (We also assigned colors for the parents, Dad is a different blue than Mega-Moose and Mom is, yep you guessed it, purple.)  Then when I see the red backpack dropped on the floor I can say, “Funny-bone, put your backpack away” or the yellow towel on the bathroom floor, “Super-kid hang up your towel please.”  I always know whose stuff is cluttering up the place.

In the basket each child has:

  • A clipboard to clip any papers that I may need to see, sign  or sort that they will use as soon as they come in from school.  I can also use the clipboard to clip anything they need to take back to school, money for a field trip or a signed permission slip.
  • A binder so that they can three hole punch and keep anything they want to keep from the school year.
  • A composition book to write notes to me, or my notes to them, or memories from the day or goals.  We have used a new composition book every year in homeschool, at the end of the year they have a good record of their year.

Also in the basket:

  • A binder for Mom.  This is where I will keep papers that come home that I need to keep track of.  I have it divided into tabbed sections: the grades the boys are in now (K, 5, 7); as well as a section for each school that the kids attend (right now that is an elementary and middle school) for things that pertain to the “school, not grade” say the lunch menu; and lastly a section  for generic information, that has the district school calendar, etc..   I already have a collection of papers in the Mom binder from the back to school / meet the teacher nights.
  • The three hole punch and a stapler so that no one ever has to ask me “Where’s the three hole punch” and/or so that there is no excuse about things not getting into the folders.
  • Our schools are big advocates of the “agenda” book too.  So at the end of the day the boys can dump there agenda and folder in the basket so I can have a look at those too.

Everything all in one place.  This should work, right?  All of my boys are already great self managers and I think they will utilize this system well.  It’s me I am worried about.

Share your tricks with me for organizing school stuffs!  Any tips for me?

Aug
16

Back to School Pterodactyls

How was your Summer?!!!!!!

I obviously had a fantastic summer.  It kept me so busy I forgot how to blog!  Here is a picture of some of our fun:

The biggest news as we jump back into this is to announce my three oldest kiddos will be heading to public school next week.  I don’t know who is more nervous, them or me.  It is like sending them all to kindergarten again!  This was a choice we made carefully and took several month to make.  We fasted and prayed individually and as a family.  We have always said that homeschool is not any “one” person in our family’s decision and this was the first year that I felt like we really tested those waters. Not all of us were on the same page at any given time this summer.  It tested our skills at working through different ideas and purposes.  I am thankful to have strong people in our family that are capable to express what they think and feel, as well as separate what they want from what feels like the right thing.  They are going to do just great and we can always come back to homeschool if we need to.

Remember these are just my thoughts and feelings about my family, I always welcome your thoughts and feelings as long as you are accountable for them.

For my Kindergartener, this was an easy choice.  There are life skills that need to be set in a foundation starting in kindergarten.  Getting along with others, what is acceptable socially, how to stand in a line, raise your hand and follow direction.  I do not think we should send our children for social reasons any other year than kindergarten.  He is way excited to go and just got glasses today.  He is feeling and looking all smarty pants like!

For my fifth grader  it was a ping pong battle of indecision.  He wanted to go but was scared.  He didn’t want to go back when he thought about how much time he would be away from the family, but wants to see more of his friends.  He wanted a different teacher than Mom.  He doesn’t want to wake up early.  He is advanced in reading, math, history and science, but has other concerns about being behind in writing and … I think just writing.  He also is a people pleaser and seemed to ride the waves of Mom fearing she would just miss them too much, so he would want to stay, or Mega-moose deciding to go back so then he would decide to go to public school too.  Ultimately he decided. And he chose public school.

The sixth grader Mega-Moose was a much harder choice.  He will be in seventh and there were all kinds of unknowns.  Lockers, changing classrooms, P.E., grades and tests like never before!  He wanted to experience different teachers, a variety of classes.  But he also craves home and being with family.  And as a parent, it became one of those, let them open their wings and fly decisions.  When Mr. Humble Tasks and I prayed about it we both felt like either way, he would be fine, and that Moose had to choose.  Not us.  We sat down with him and went over the pros and cons.  And then we had to say, you have to choose.  He desperatly wanted us to tell him, to choose for him, to nudge him in a direction.  I explained to him that sometimes there are two right answers and we have to choose.  We have to live our lives so that the Holy Ghost can always communicate with us if we get too far down the wrong path, but sometimes, the answer is no answer at all.  It nearly killed me.  I wanted to rescue him from his uncomfortable indecision.  I wanted to guide and direct him.  But I know, as his former teacher and his mother, that indecision is one of his weaknesses.  If anything, I think this was a drill in making his own choices.

When I took them to enroll in school they all walked in with confidence.  They all fit right in.  But my favorite quote was after I asked Moose if he was nervous and he shook his head yes.  I asked if he had butterflies and he said, “no Pterodactyls.”  I have Pterodactyls too.  Whatever am I going to do with the dog and little guy all day?

I want to know how you make hard decisions in your family.  I have only lightly brushed the surface of what we went through this summer making this change.  How do you manage such tasks in your family?

Jun
03

Romantic Trip Tips

Let me say again that your romance and my romance might be different but here are a few things that made my weekend special.

  1. The Playlist – probably one of my favorite details.  I made a playlist of songs that fit us.  I included songs that we had listened to over the years, back to our dating time.  You know those songs that you play over and over and they may not have anything to do with romance or relationships but you both like it.  I also included songs that did have meaning to us, our songs through the years.  We have one song that whenever it is on the radio we call each other.  It means a lot to each of us and our children know it is “our” song.  I also included songs that had lyrics or titles that fit our relationship too.  I titled it “Come Away With Me” and started it off with Nora Jones song.  It was a nice mix of music and we had fun listening to on our drives between city and country.
  2. Favorite Snacks – just in case someone has drop in blood in blood sugar and needs a little somethin’-somethin’ to tie them over until lunch or dinner.  Or just to snack.  Sweetheart has some favorite snacks and he was happy to see them.  In addition, along the way at the Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory he bought Chocolate Covered Strawberries. Another very romantic item.
  3. Washed and Vacuumed his car – The night before we left, Sweetheart was camping with the boys, so I took his car to get some tender loving car that he rarely has time to do.  A good wash, vacuum and wipe down. A nice touch to let him know I was wanted to spoil him. 
  4. New Outfit(s) – This was a splurge on my part.  But it was worth it.  I bought a new dress, shoes and a necklace to wear to dinner one night.  He enjoyed being surprised by the new outfit, something he had never seen before.  I also made sure it was a floor length, flowy kind of thing.  Seeings how the short and tight thing is not really my look.  He loved it and during the fancy meal at the bed and breakfast he even said he was happy I had suggested we dress up.
  5. Packed his clothing - This might seem like a silly thing.  I didn’t ask him much about what he wanted.  I picked out what I wanted him to wear.  Not in a controlling way, just in a “I like it when you wear this” way.  I took special care to pick items not in his normal everyday wardrobe as well as one of his favorite shirts that he doesn’t like to wear because it is white and the kids always get it messy with kid grime.
  6. Questions - Once read that actually commented gave me this good idea.  Laura left a comment last week saying she and he husband had filled out a questionnaire about each other to re-connect recently.  I didn’t go so far as to make a true questionnaire but I did put some questions of things on the iPad.  During a lull in conversation I pulled it up and said can you name my favorite [song, flower, movie, actor, dessert, clothing, TV show, etc...] as well as told him my ideas for his “favorites” or least favorites.  It was a candid look at our relationship and how much we know each other and yet we can still surprise each other from time to time with certain answers.
  7. Research! – I knew that one of our hot buttons for failure, steamed emotions or hurt feelings often comes down to lack of information on someone’s part.  (okay, it’s me that gets frustrated, but then when I get frustrated, he gets frustrated with me for not being flexible or easy going, and then I get hurt that he can’t be understanding of my quirks and well, you can see it’s an ugly cycle.)  So I did my fair share of research.  Where to eat, lots of options for eating and things to do.  I knew what was near-by our hotel.  I looked up a variety of places, things, fun things to do in the areas.  I had maps.  I had a page of addresses, phone numbers and alternative options.  It helped more than once to have that information, especially when Google Maps had taken us two miles too far north and we were not finding what we were looking for.   After one, perhaps the most “intense” moment of our escape, I as usual apologized for getting crazy and he said he thought I had done very well.  I don’t think he was just being nice, I had done well keeping my emotions in check.  So the research may have been more for me than for him, but I had his best interest in mind.    It also helped when we started to fall victim to the “what do you want to do, No what do you want to do, No, what do you want to do?”  We had a look at the list and made quick choices.
  8. New nightie – it was a romantic get away after all!
  9. Flexible - I mentioned in#7 that I can be a little uptight about details.  I reminded myself over and over when needed that the weekend was not about perfection, it was about falling in love again.  It worked!
  10. Touch – okay this one will be quirky so skip it if you don’t want quirky.  But I read that we don’t touch or spouses enough just to touch them and to concentrate on touching your spouse just to touch, no other intentions.  My Sweetheart and I hold hands all the time and we snuggle every night, but I wanted to try this.  So I picked a place on his arm and touched it over and over for the week before we left.  As we talked in the kitchen with the kids, as we sat at the dinner table, as we crawled into bed at night, when he came home from work or meetings and talked to me about his day, sitting next to each other at church.  I never commented on it or made a big deal about it.  On our little escape, he touched my arm in the exact same place and looked at me in the eyes like he knew what he was doing.  I then commented on it!   “Why are you touching me there?” and guess what?  he had noticed throughout the week!  It is just a simple new connection that somehow speaks romance.  Try it!
  11. Notes - write a few simple notes telling them you are looking forward to getting away.  A post-it note left in the car, a hand written note in his bag, just little notes that let him know you are thinking about “it” (the escape) or thinking about him.
  12. Small gift – something small to give the morning you leave or once you arrive.  I bought my Sweetheart a small bottle of cologne that I liked.  I left in near the sink in our bathroom with a note (#11)  for him.  Remember he had been camping with the boys so I knew he would shower when he got home before we left.
  13. Packed pillows - My Sweetheart likes to sleep with his own pillow, so I set the pillows by, like leaning on the suitcase.  That however did not translate into “put them in the car with the bags” and they didn’t make the trip.  But I thought about it. I knew he would want his pillow.  Does your Sweetheart have things like that? 
  14. Cheated – I read 1001 ways to be romantic.  It’s a fun read to get some ideas from.

When I told my Sweetheart I missed him the first day we were apart he said “You didn’t get the {Mr. Humble Tasks} channel all day long huh?”  Have I ever mentioned that I love him?  I love that he makes me laugh!

Jun
02

Romantic Foodies

It is true.  We are Foodies.  No vacation, get away or date is going to be complete without food.  Preferably good food.  Reeeeeeallly good food.  And this trip was no let down.  I had done research online and asked other Foodie friends that had been to the areas.  There were a few places that popped up again and again.

Torchy’s Tacos

A variety of websites, including Design Sponge, listed the best eats in Austin, Texas.  They all mentioned a place called Torchy’s Tacos.  A friend had already recommended it and gone so far as to say it was the best taco she had ever had in her life.  From someone living in Texas, that is a statement!  Of course we had to seek them out.  It was our first stop once inside Austin city limits.  I have to say: best. taco. ever.  There I said it.  Now, mind you.  These are not typical Tex-Mex or South of the border tacos.  These are what-a-great-idea-to-wrap-tasty-food-in-a-tortilla-and-call-it-a-taco kind of tacos.  The best one that I had was a Jerk Chicken with mango salsa.  It was SPICY but still managed to be super flavorful and left me thinking about it for days like a lost love affair.  And the queso, another you-better-know-what-you-are-talking-about-if-you-dare-to-serve-[queso]-kind of Texas food.  I will go so far as to say it is for sure in the top two of best queso I have had since moving to Texas.  Yep, get the queso if you go.

It was so good in fact that we tracked down another Torchy’s to try their breakfast tacos the next morning.  There was a line out the door this time!  They were tasty too.  Not the best, but for sure one of better, breakfast tacos we have ever had.

Gourdough’s Donuts

The other thing that I “heard” about over and over and had made special note of for my next trip to Austin was Gourdough’s Donuts.  People were talking about them.  And Austin doesn’t get talked about a great deal in San Antonio.  Texas is a big place and it needs to be because all the pride here would pop open any other state.  But the the cities tend to keep to themselves and people “from” the cities tend to be a little passionate about their city, even if they now reside in another city.  I have a certain friend from D-town, otherwise known as Dallas, and she has a hard time with our Sweet San Antonio.  Poor girl.  My point was, that if San Antonio people were talking about something in Austin, it must be good.  And they were.  Good.  Yep.   Made to order and served from an Airstream trailer in a Foodie Trailer park, you might worry that it wasn’t all that.  But I am here to testify that sitting in the 98 degree Texas heat while the handsome U.T. student in the even hotter trailer fried us a couple doughnuts – was all worth it!   I kept things simple with a sugar and spice doughnut, my all time favorite no matter who makes it or where it is made.  My sweetheart changed it up a little and got the “peach one.”  All of the doughnuts have a creative name such as Naughty and Nice (Sugar and Spice) and Son of a Peach.  So if you go, be prepared for that and for questions if you have little ones about the names of the donuts.  Yet again, super good doughnut, even top three ever.

And the good food keeps coming.

Rose Hill Manor – good food

We ate dinner at the Bed and Breakfast the night we stayed there.  They serve a four course dinner.  The herbed rolls were to die for.  The salad sprinkled with toasted pistachios and shaved parmesan cheese.  The Tomato Bisque with corn relish and homemade croutons.  The filet mignon served with mashers, asparagus and wild mushroom sauce.  And the dessert with it’s homemade vanilla ice cream and balsamic caramel sauce.  We didn’t leave hungry that is for sure.  And we received excellent but not intrusive service.  It was during the dinner that we talked to the owner and discussed the history of the place and I think we fell in love with it even more once we found out he had built it with his own hands.  It was charming before, but knowing that detail made it a home built of handmade love and attention.

The next morning we opted to have our breakfast served to us in our room.  It was an added fee, but our room was so Romantic and private, and it had a table for two… it seemed like the best start to our final day together.  They boasted about their three course breakfast from the time we made the reservation.  I knew Alec would be excited about the Vanilla Maple French Toast but I was personally attached to the Eggs Benedict.  Eggs Benedict is my splurge on calories when we go out for breakfast.  I have never attempted to make it but I hold others to a pretty high standard when I order it.  This one was their signature dish, they were raising the bar on themselves!  It did not let me down.  I savored every bite.  I like my eggs poached firm, and she (Patti) got them just right.  The cracked black pepper and buttery, lemony hollandaise sauce was heavenly.  There were also muffins, fruit, smoothies and Orange Juice.

Rather Sweet Bakery

If you are ever in these parts it won’t be long until someone asks if you have been to Rather Sweet in Fredericksburg, (Texas).  Rebecca Rather is known as the Pastry Queen and you can buy her cookbooks from just about anywhere that sells cookbooks.  I originally fell in love with her as much because she has a crown on her logo as I did because her food is just down home tasty.  And it is kind of my own personal fairy tale.  A baker opens a shop, gets national attention in magazines, publishes her own cookbooks and is mega-baker famous and still lives in her small town and chats with the locals at her bakery.  I know because she was there on the porch last weekend.

I have several of her recipes that are my favorite to make here at home, but there is something better and magical about eating Rather Sweet Food in Fredericksburg in the bakery.  I had a sandwich.  A Sandwich people.  (It’s a pretty sandwich though isn’t it?)  The secret is the bread, she calls Focaccia but it is far fluffier than any other focaccia I have ever had.  I have asked for the recipe several times and they always tell me it is in the cookbook, but I have all three of her cookbooks and I have poured over them and never came across said recipe.  I think it might be her one, or one that I realize, baker secret that she guards.  I have even googled it.  No luck.  Anyone out there, can you get it for me????  I thought about asking her on the porch last weekend, but I wanted to respect her privacy.  Maybe next time I up there.

Good Food is Romantic to us

You have to find what is romantic to you.  What do you and your Sweetheart enjoy together.  Good food happens to be something we enjoy together.  We enjoy talking about it, critiquing it, savoring it.  It fills more than our tummies, it fills our hearts and souls too.

Share with me what things you and your Sweetheart share that induce Romance.

Jun
01

Romantic Accomadations

This Romantic trip away was a little short notice.  I only planned it out a couple weeks in advance when I realized we could maybe, just maybe, make it work.  And we did!  But because it was last minute and because it was also Memorial Day weekend a lot of places were booked up.  Our dear sweet Brother and Sister that had our names last Christmas gave us gift certificates to bedandbreakfast.com.  Most of them were booked for the holiday weekend or if they were not booked, once I looked at the website, there was a reason they were not booked.  Eesh, there are some scary places out there calling themselves Bed and Breakfasts.  All I can say is do your due diligence people.  If I had not, I am pretty sure we would have been staying at a same gender rendezvous house in the city.

Aside from the gift certificates, Bed and Breakfast speak romance to me and to my husband.  Some people might be able to be romantic while camping, and I say power to you!  But Camping + me + Mr. Humble Tasks = comedy turned drama, and I am not sure the guy would get the girl in the end of that movie.  My point is that you have to know yourself and your spouse and the two of you together to know what will equal the most romance for you.

I also knew we needed to be close to home.  Mainly because I didn’t want to waste our precious time together traveling too far away.   I didn’t want to waste it in lines or check in counters.  I wanted to be with him and only him.  Thankfully driving an hour away gets us somewhere we want to be.

The first night we stayed in our State Capital, Austin, at a Ritzy Hotel that I had gotten at a discount on Hotwire.  I know the rates on the back of the room doors is usually mega-inflated but we paid 1/7th of what they had posted on that door.  That is a discount.  The room may have overlooked the roof top of another building but we were not there for the view.  We closed the blinds and never looked again.

While in the city we had some good food, more on that tomorrow, and we did some shopping.  My Sweetheart was in major need of new pants for work and church.  Thankfully we found a sale that got the quality of pants I was looking for along with a price he was willing pay.  Thank goodness for the outlets at San Marcos.  We browsed most other shops, didn’t buy a lot.

We did see a movie in the ritziest Movie theater ever!  It was like a lounge inside, adults only, and it had inflated, even for a movie theater, prices, but it was a romantic experience.  As Romantic as movie theaters can get.  The seats were plush, over-sized leather seats with plenty of leg room and not so close to your neighbor in any direction.  And those were the cheap seats.  The not-so-cheap seats actually were reclining lounge chairs that came with a blanket and pillow.   See a video of it here.

The second day we enjoyed a drive through Texas Hill Country until we came upon this:

Granted Texas is in a drought this year so it could be more lush, but I tell you.  It looked charming and inviting from the distance.  And it was.  Charming and inviting.  We were properly greeted by a well dressed man that checked us in, walked us to our cottage, helped with our bags, showed us around the house and gave us an order form for not only the three course breakfast in the morning but for pillows too!  You read that correctly.  The room came with a dozen pillows but if you couldn’t seem to find one that fit your liking there was a pillow menu to call and request different varieties.

A few years ago I had kind of sworn off Bed and Breakfast believing from my experience that they didn’t live up to their over priced hype.  Rose Hill Manor changed my mind.  At various times Mr. Humble Tasks or myself would say half in a lost in thought whisper, “we are so coming back here.”  The attention to detail was superb.  The hardwood floors, the plush carpets, the deluxe towels and sheets, the robes provided, the wing backed chairs and ottoman, the breakfast table for two, the water filter on the mini bar sink, the night light and make-up mirror in the bathroom, the boardwalk to our cottage.  If I ever caught myself saying, “I wish…” if I looked around I found it.  As I looked out at the view and thought it would be nice to sit for a spell I noticed that there were lounge chairs in all the right places on the 40 acres.  Under an oak tree, on the over sized Southern porch, near the fountain.  The candles in the fireplace were a nice touch and as I thought I wish I had matches, I found a lighter placed conveniently near by.   As Alec unfolded his newly purchased dress pants before dinner I heard “I wish there was an iron” and then I notcied him ironing his pants in the sitting room.  It was like magic.

Rose Hill Manor somehow made time tick by at the pace I wish it did all the time.  It ticked by slowly so that we could savor it, so that we could breath deep breaths and let them out slowly as a sigh.  Our souls rejoiced in the slower pace and our hearts melted together again.

There was the dog that belonged to the family that owned the property that didn’t bother anyone but could be found following various guests as the strolled along.  There were llamas and cattle, that don’t really sell romance for me, but they were far enough away that I could see but not smell them and it gave that “you’re in the country, relax” feeling.  There were cookies in the big house and friendly, helpful, delighted to help, well dressed, polite and respectful staff available when needed but not seen or heard other wise.

Other than picking the right places to stay the accommodations themselves were out of my control, but I feel like we got the best of both worlds in one trip.  City and Country.  At first I thought it wasn’t ideal to stay in two different places, but I actually really enjoyed the contrast.

May
31

Romance Lessons, Anyone?

Did the subject make you blush?  Make you squirm ?  Are you in desperate need of romance in your own life?  Is romance so far gone that you are not sure if you would recognize it?  Truly, I would like to know because I think this needs to be remedied.  Last week I was seriously brave and asked for your romance tips.  I was ever so slightly disappointed with the lack of comments that I received.  Here I was asking you, because I felt in need of help… maybe y’all need some help!

I know that the strength of my relationship with my sweetheart is remarkable and I do not mean to make any feel badly.  I just know, from first hand, personal experience that I often come last and it is because I put myself at the bottom of my priority list.  The truth is…

You deserve some romance!

I will be here all week rehashing my romantic get away.  Because it was that good.  That worth it.  That, oh yeah, yes, that romantic.  Just off the top of my head we could discuss the details, the accommodations, the food and lastly my tips that worked for me and they might inspire you

My reasons why I needed a little romantic get away:

  1. Over time romance can slip through the cracks or lurk in the shadows.  And once you have gone “without” it you build up a resistance and fake yourself into believing you don’t need it.  NOT TRUE!  If you have conned yourself into thinking a DVD with the lights off at home is romance – you are due for a reality check.  I am not saying that cannot be romantic, I am saying if it is the only romance you are getting, it is time for a change of pace.
  2. It really is amazing once you step away from your life just how many distractions there are.  We said out-loud before we left there would be no phones or laptops.  My Sweetheart’s career and calling at church both require him to be reachable nearly 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  I rarely feel like I have his full attention even when we are alone or out for date nights.  It was nice to have that limited to only a few check-in times and he only made a couple short phone calls.  He didn’t pull out the laptop a single time, although he did bring it “in case of emergency.”  This is a HUGE success and a vast contrast in difference from normal.  It was really nice not to have dinner with the blackberry as a third party or to have several conversations where I felt I really had and held his attention, not the typical second best as he checked his phone or replied to an email.  I can’t tell you how many times I have been in the middle of a deep conversation with him, he checked the blackberry and his face and mood changed.  He thinks he can multi-task it, but it isn’t romantic.  I mention all of that only to set the stage of why I was in need of romance.  I know my husband is amazing, I know he is kind and wonderful to me and our family – the blackberry is not grounds for gripe.  I am only saying it was nice not to have it as competition.
  3. The blackberry, laptop and other electronics, be them TVs or gaming, are not the only distractions we have.  Nor is my Sweetheart’s demanding career and calling the only demands we battle.  Being away from the kids, stepping outside of Mom and Dad skins, especially the Mom shedding the scheduler, meal planner/preparer, taxi driving, who-does-what-when-with-whom-and-why know it all, who knows who-needs-what-before-they-usually-do and knows where things are and how things run the smoothest.  It is a full time job and letting go for a night or date of romance is just as hard for me to do as it is for my Sweetheart to put down his blackberry and slowly walk away.  My mind is constantly processing what’s next, what’s tomorrow, what happened today that may need remedy and the never ending to do list running in my head like the steaming feed of the Dow Jones only it doesn’t close at 4 p.m. Eastern Time.
  4. That leads me to the next item of why I needed romance.  With the Dow Jones feed in my head of our family and our peaks and valleys of emotion, mental, physical and intellectual welfare it could be difficult for me to carry on a conversation not involving my kids, homeschool, karate, health, eating habits, sleeping habits, how long it had been since I had gone to the bathroom or showered by myself, or how we were going to manage the family needing to be in 5 different places at the same time on Saturday with only two cars and two drivers.  Is there enough of me outside of child, home and my combined career of them to carry on a conversation with out them?  I admit, even having put some forethought into that subject I was kind of troubled by the afternoon of the third day day of what to talk about now with out mention of the kids or home.  Admittedly, kids and home did sneak their way into several conversations over the weekend.  I just wanted to make sure I had life in me outside of them – and I do.
  5. Appreciation.  This one is double edged and multi-faceted.  I wanted to show my Sweetheart that I appreciate him.  I wanted him to feel loved and supported, understood and spoiled.  I selfishly wanted that for myself too.  To feel loved and supported, understood and spoiled.  I wanted my kids to appreciate me the way they only could by experiencing my absences.  Now, leaving them with Grandpa and Grandma is a bit of a treat, but I still think they realized just how much they rely on me.  I also wanted to appreciate my kids and home and by getting away not only for a break from it all, but to take care of myself in a nurturing way, I came home to appreciate them all more than I had been.

Romance has many meanings.

It does.  What might be romantic to me might not be romantic to you.  I encourage you to think about it though.  You deserve some romance, soft, nurturing, encouraging, loving time with you spouse.  You do.  And if that seems silly or awkward you definately do.

I enjoyed my weeks preparing for this weekend almost as much as I enjoyed the weekend itself.  I enjoyed it when my Sweetheart would say, “We should….” and I could reply, “I already…” and pull something out of the bag, or off a digital file, or whatever.  I loved the way his eyes twinkled, I loved seeing him smile that crinkled-eyed-smile that means he is truly from his heart happy, I loved holding his hand in our odd but special hand hold for hours over the weekend, I loved that when ever there was a twinge of unhappiness or “not ideal” I thought to myself how much I wanted him to be happy and it all dissolved.  I also love that I witnessed the same for him, perhaps a slight tightening in the shoulders and then his focus shifted and he did something he knew would make me happy.  It was like dating all over again!  Wooing and trying to out do the other one in making the other one feel special, loved and important.

My Sweetheart has always felt that we needed to travel and go away without the kids.  We had lost track of that 17 years, four kids, several careers and grown up lives later.  But by the second day he was saying, “So, when are we doing this again… next weekend?”  And on our drive home we had the discussion of frequency, not just ideal world, but reality world, and I can assure you, more romance is in our future.

May
24

See how brave I am?

Let us start with the friendly reminder that this is a family blog.

If you have a comment that might not be appropriate for anyone in a family to read, say a 12 year old boy, then I hope we are good enough friends you can email me privately with comments.

That clarified: this blog covers all aspects of my life, including my marriage.

My Sweetheart and I are going away this weekend.  Did you hear me sigh or see my shoulders relax just a little?  Truth is, it will be the first time since Youngster was born that we have been away without him.  We did “go away” seven months ago leaving the three older boys at home and took the baby with us.  Needless to point out, I am ready to escape.  Not only to be free from my children for a couple days but also to reconnect with my Sweetheart.  No phones, no email, no laptops.

My Sweetheart has always felt strongly that “we” should get away often and he is good about making it happen.  But just like with all of you, life crowds us out every now and then.  We glance at the calendar and realize it has been 7 months since we “went away” and that was with the baby in tow.  How did we go nearly two years since just he and I went away?  Granted we also have weekly date nights and that helps.

Not far, but far enough

For time’s sake we are not going too far away.  We don’t have time to travel and still feel like we had a break.  No sense spending time flying if you only have a few days.  We will be driving North to stay in a ritzy hotel in our state capital one night and staying in a bed and breakfast in the near-by Hill Country the next night.

When we have talked to each other about our expectations we both just kind of say, lets do nothing.  I offered golf to him, as a kind gesture,  and he declined, this must be a true couples get away!   I say no phones, no laptops, no email… but what I really mean is no work or other responsibilities that eat our time.  I am sure we will play on the iPad and waste time googling random questions one of us comes up with.  Yes, we are nerds.  We enjoy our Google races.

I have some ideas….

I have ideas of my own for what to pack, what to plan, what to do on this vacation from reality.  Just wondering if y’all have suggestions for me.  (See how brave I am?)  I have googled what to pack for a romantic get away, I have down loaded 1001 ways to be romantic on my Nook app, I am heading out today to buy something fun and flirty to wear.  I plan to call the Concierge of the hotel and let them know this is a special occasion, if only time away together, to get their recommendations as well as hope for upgrades or complimentary gifts.  The Bed and Breakfast is already aware of our reason for escape and I have scheduled a very romantic dinner and breakfast for our time there.

Let me have it people!  Give me your best ideas and tips.  Just keep them family friendly!

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